Does it take 28 years to get flowers?

My 20 year old son is a puzzle to me.  Is he a spoil brat?  If so I created him.  But at what point does the child become the adult and responsible for their own decision?

My mom's 83rd b-day is in May.  She is not the person that she once was.  She is not as depressed.  Maybe dementia is not a bad thing after all????   They forget the evil that they have done and seem happy all the time.  Hard to hate a sappy, happy child?  Easy to forgive and forget?

The Teacher (aka Deb)